“Hello, I as Suzanna. I’m too Emotional. I’m also too Sensitive, too Needy. I’m Incapable. Unqualified. I’m Like a Sailor (if I cuss). Life a Virgin (when I play innocent). Like a Whore (when I play). I’m often Mistaken and very often Wrong…unless I’m right, then I’m Out of Line. Then I Have it Coming.”
My guest is Suzanna Quintana. The words above resonate with me…you, too? We can’t do anything right…and when we do, we are out of line, aggressive, we “have it coming”.
Suzanna is a writer, abuse survivor, women’s advocate, feminist and single Mother of 3 boys. She serves as a guiding voice to those ready to escape their pain and claim their space in the Light of freedom.
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Who is Mickie Zada? What is Surviving Abuse Network? We are part of a growing wave of change…Join us in refusing to accept status quo!
Women are not equal in lots of places…but especially not in many of our homes and, certainly, not in the court system. Do you know that 70% of abusers manage to come out ahead in our court system today?!?
The goal of Surviving Abuse Network is to bring the reality of domestic abuse out of the closet and on to center stage.
Equally as important is making it clear to those of us attracted to abusers, if we don’t change, nothing changes.
I am not victim blaming. I lived in domestic abuse for 34 years. I don’t blame myself for that.
Our attraction to abusers is the result of a lesson, a pattern that was programed into my brain when we were kids. The programmed pattern controls our thought process, our emotions. It tells us that abuse is normal.
When I identified that programmed pattern in my own mind, I was able to deal with it and eliminate my attraction to abusers. You are able to do that, too.
Learn more about programed patterns, hard wired lessons that affect our lives and we don’t even know they are there.
Why I do not accept status quo and how Surviving Abuse Network challenges the current norm? I am traveling to the beat of a different drum, just like you!
Here’s the fact: Domestic abuse affects 1 in 3 women in the United States. 1 in 3!
Domestic abuse is real, and we don’t have to live with it!
My guest says, in person and on her website, “I want to put a stop to survivors of abuse feeling broken, unfixable and absolutely frustrated because it seems nothing they do is helping. Honestly, it really pisses me off when survivors are not able to have the lives and relationships they deserve. Whenever I hear stories of survivors giving up, falling deeper and deeper into despair, or worse, being further traumatized by people who are supposed to help, I get so upset. It also reminds me of my past and how excruciating life was for twenty plus years.”
“I was definitely convinced that there was no way out of the pain, constant instability, and feeling of worthlessness. It sucked, but I found a way out and I would love to support you in doing that as well.”
Rachel Grant is the owner and founder of Rachel Grant Coaching and is a Sexual Abuse Recovery Coach. She is also the author of Beyond Surviving: The Final Stage in Recovery from Sexual Abuse.
She brings to the table a passionate belief that her clients do not have to remain trapped or confronted daily by the thoughts or behaviors that result from abuse. Through her own journey of recovery from sexual abuse, she has gained insight and understanding about what it takes to overcome abuse. This makes it possible for her to relate to and appreciate your struggles intimately.
Learn more about Rachel and download her free checklist, “3 Stages of Recovery”, go to wwwRachelGrantCoachong.com
He swept her off her feet, even bought her a house with a big back yard for her two lovely daughters. She believed she had fallen deeply in love with an ideal partner.
On the first day of their honeymoon, he grabbed her hand, squeezed it very hard and said “Now that you are my wife, you will do as you’re told, how you’re told and when you’re told.” The relationship deteriorated quickly. A few months later she literally ran for her life.
Susan Ball used her traumatic domestic abuse experience as the impetus for her transformation into coaching women who have experienced, or are experiencing, domestic abuse. Her company is called Empowered Her. She believes every woman can heal from domestic abuse.
Blog posts, additional coaching information and a free ebook titled “5 Ways to Love Yourself Courageously Enough to Walk Away” are available on her website firstname.lastname@example.org