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SHATTERPROOF Thriving After Domestic Abuse

I’m Mickie Zada and I lived in abuse…for 34 years…from age 19 until I was 53. I believe we create our realities, and I chose to stay in a damaging relationship for so long because I thought it was my Calling. I was wrong. I changed me. I am now an enthusiastic participant in Life. “The words ‘I am’ are potent words; be careful what you hitch them to. The thing you’re claiming has a way of reaching back and claiming you.” A.L. Kitselman I am a strong woman, a fabulous woman, over 60 years old. I am a Change-agent. I am an encourager. I am uniquely qualified to speak to living in abuse, getting out and surviving to the fullest extent. I know what it takes. I know the fear. I am a survivor. I am a coach. I am happy to have these “I Am” words to reach back and claim me! The actions I teach and share are those that I’ve learned in my Journey from choosing to live in abuse to choosing to create my authentic life; safe, sound, Real. I invite you to read through this web page. Think about who I Am. Read blogs, listen to some podcasts, watch live videos. Do we connect? I am open and exposed. Choose to reach out to me or not. What I know for sure is that I lived the life of abuse, and got out, and I’ve thrived, to serve as a beacon to other women. If you live in abuse, or you’ve recently escaped, it’s my Mission to support and encourage you to choose and live a healthy life. The materials, the tools, the support is here. It’s your responsibility to grab hold and change yourself, from the in-side out.
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Now displaying: December, 2018
Dec 26, 2018

Dr. Wayne Dyer described life changing perception the best I’ve ever read:  When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change!

Today you are at a milestone in your Life.  Today, choose to change the way you look at things.

Doing the same things over and over, expecting different results is what? Some people say it’s insanity.  I say it’s a victim state of mind.  We can whine and cry, be angry and feel drained.  We can “wonder why” our lives are “like this” when others are happy, thriving and enjoying life.  Yet, we keep doing the same things: re-acting to stimuli in our lives, embracing the emotions of fear and re-acting in anger. Over and over and over.  

Today you are at milestone in your Life.  This new thought is revolutionary:  YOU are in control of your life!

You’ve come so far!  You left your abuser!!  You are a survivor, a victor not a victim.  

You have the power to change your mind-set, change how you look at things, create the life you love.  

No matter how long you’ve been out of abuse, these 3 steps will empower you to choose a new direction.

Listen to more podcasts, watch live videos, read blog posts, and contact Mickie on her web page:
www.survivingabusenetwork.com

Join her online Facebook community at SHATTERPROOF Thriving After Domestic Abuse
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Dec 19, 2018

Aimee Cabo’s life is a testament to the power of honesty, love, belief, faith and survival.

At age 15, she was part of what the Miami media dubbed "The Case from Hell"—a sexual abuse case that pitted her parents against her and her sister. Beaten daily by her Mother, it’s no wonder she was attracted to abusive partners.

To this day, Aimee credits her faith in God and the love of her support network for getting her through.

Years later, she would need that same faith and love when her daughter was brutally beaten into a coma. Her daughter's against-the-odds recovery alone is enough to restore your faith, but set in the context of this incredible family's life, it is even more moving.

Contact Aimee on Facebook at God is the Cure, which is also the name of her first book, available on Amazon and in bookstores across the Country.

Dec 12, 2018

Like the fact or not, each of us has a life pattern, some “program” deep in our brain that creates our attraction to abusers.  My lesson, my program, was “Anything the boys did was OK.” 

 Practically from the time my first brother was born (I was 15 months old), I was taught that males were granted more leigh way, were not held to the same levels of responsibility as girls and could do whatever they wanted to…while girls made excuses for their poor choices and negative behavior.  My parents did not program me and my sisters that way to cause us problems:  Our training was to protect our brothers, who had learning disabilities.

Thus, the stage was set to continue my life as a co-dependent enabler of men’s damaging behavior toward me.  I stayed in domestic abuse for 34 years, always believing it was my Mission to keep my abuser between the lines.

I was wrong.  It took many years and a lot of personal growth to embrace that Truth.  I was 53 and had allowed myself to be worn away. I was 53 when I embraced the fact that I didn’t know who I was, what I thought, what I wanted in life.  I did the work to change:  If we don’t change, nothing changes.

Not only did I discover Me, I created my own name in which I anchored my new Being.  My Truth was finally set free, the culmination of which is this podcast and my business: Surviving Abuse Network

Dec 5, 2018

Traumatized by molestation when she was a youngster, raped when she was 18 and then choosing a violently abusive partner, Amber Elizabeth had a lot to overcome.

But, overcome she did!  And now she is the leader of a group of women who also are dealing with the results and agony of moving forward in their lives after abuse.

How has she made the transition from abused victim to thriving and vocal leader?  Self work…personal growth… and dedication to applying the lessons she learned.

Contact Amber by friending her on Facebook.  Request to join her private page, Breaking Free:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1877914985844912/

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