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SHATTERPROOF Thriving After Domestic Abuse

I’m Mickie Zada and I lived in abuse…for 34 years…from age 19 until I was 53. I believe we create our realities, and I chose to stay in a damaging relationship for so long because I thought it was my Calling. I was wrong. I changed me. I am now an enthusiastic participant in Life. “The words ‘I am’ are potent words; be careful what you hitch them to. The thing you’re claiming has a way of reaching back and claiming you.” A.L. Kitselman I am a strong woman, a fabulous woman, over 60 years old. I am a Change-agent. I am an encourager. I am uniquely qualified to speak to living in abuse, getting out and surviving to the fullest extent. I know what it takes. I know the fear. I am a survivor. I am a coach. I am happy to have these “I Am” words to reach back and claim me! The actions I teach and share are those that I’ve learned in my Journey from choosing to live in abuse to choosing to create my authentic life; safe, sound, Real. I invite you to read through this web page. Think about who I Am. Read blogs, listen to some podcasts, watch live videos. Do we connect? I am open and exposed. Choose to reach out to me or not. What I know for sure is that I lived the life of abuse, and got out, and I’ve thrived, to serve as a beacon to other women. If you live in abuse, or you’ve recently escaped, it’s my Mission to support and encourage you to choose and live a healthy life. The materials, the tools, the support is here. It’s your responsibility to grab hold and change yourself, from the in-side out.
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Now displaying: January, 2019
Jan 30, 2019

I easily and effortlessly smile!  Why?  Because smiling is the quickest way to increase positive energy.

Several women in my Community have asked this week how to change their negative moods and attitudes…they were feeling sad, guilty, lonely, frustrated, angry, alone.  

We all feel negative emotions now and then.

Having left domestic abuse does not mean everything is good now…no more sad days, living in the past or fearful of the future.  Right?  We still carry all that negativity with us, in the recesses of our minds.  And it does surface from time to time.

This podcast discusses and teaches The Smile Exercise.  It is simple and free.  Anyone can do it.  And, it will improve your attitude.  I learned this process years ago and still use it often.

Test the theory…what have you got to lose (besides feeling sad, lost, alone, afraid?)

For more information about thriving after domestic abuse, listen to podcasts, watch live videos and read articles on my website www.SurvivingAbuseNetwork.com  

Jan 23, 2019

There is a pervasive reality described and discussed by women who have lived in domestic abuse…it is generally only talked about after we leave.  We don’t want to accept the reality of our lives when we are still living in abuse.

Here’s the one thing:
You did not know you were an abused wife, significant other or girlfriend.  For months, years or decades you did not know, did not believe, did not accept that you were abused.  Your mind told you that you were the strong one, that you were Called to help your abuser live his life between the lines, that for whatever reason you were where you were supposed to be.  Right?

Even after accepting that we were abused, it usually was months or years before we gained the strength, the support, the mindset, to leave.  We are used to believing our lies.  We still feel responsible for helping and supporting our misunderstood, angry-at-the-world abuser.

The one thing you don’t know about living in domestic abuse is that most of us don’t allow our reality to enter our minds, our worlds.  Silence allows the epidemic of domestic abuse to grow, to thrive.  1 in 3 women in the U.S. experience domestic abuse at some time in their lives.  You were not alone.  You are not alone. 

Listen to more podcasts, watch live videos and read articles at
www.SurvivingAbuseNetwork.com

Jan 16, 2019

As kids, we threw rocks into water to watch the ripples…I still do!  I like to see how far they will travel.  We know that ripples of light and sound travel into infinity.

The same is true of what we say (sound) and the energy we release (light).  Our words and energy are felt and heard.  They affect objects they bump into…like our family members, co-workers, and friends.

We are totally responsible for the ripples we send into the Universe and into our little space of life. 

The question is not, will I make a difference in the world?
The real question is, what kind of difference will I make?

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Learn more at www.SurvivingAbuseNetwork.com

 

Jan 9, 2019

My guest’s Mission is to break the stigma of being abused by breaking her silence.  One of the realities that empowered her and that she teaches other victims of abuse is that your abuse was not about you.  It was about your abuser. 

In our conversation, she shares that her former step father abused her physically, psychologically and sexually. He told her every single day, from the age of 2 til 12, that she was ugly, stupid, useless, worthless, and unlovable.  She believed him, not just because she heard the words for so long, but because that was what she saw unfolding all around her.  Every situation in her life seemed to be shouting, “He’s right!!!”

Lisa Cybaniak is now an enthusiastic, high-energy, motivational speaker and success coach.  

Now she has created a life of value and worth.  Now she has a family she adores, a home she cherishes, and a career she’s in love with.  Her life is centered around empowering survivors of abuse to find their personal purpose, to build the life they deserve.

To learn more about Lisa and to join her online community, go to www.LifeLikeYouMeanIt.com

On Facebook, her private group is The Life You Deserve.  You must ask to become a member of the private Facebook group.

Jan 2, 2019

When I decided to create my own name, I apprehensively told my grown, very conservative, son.  His response on the phone, when I invited he and his wife to dinner to talk about me choosing a new name:  “OH, this is gonna be good!”

At dinner his response was “Mickie Zada?!  That sounds like a hippie name.”

My answer to his concern: “Well, you know me as your Mom, as your Dad’s wife.  You don’t know “Me”… and I AM an old hippie!”

Listen to this podcast to learn more about my motivation and reasoning.

Go to my website to learn more about Mickie Zada, listen to other podcasts, watch live videos and read articles.  All this content is to inspire, educate, and encourage thrivers of domestic abuse to stay on their Paths, to create their own authentic lives…whether that includes changing your name, or not! 
www.SurvivingAbuseNetwork.com

Looking for your own personal coach?  I’m available and I offer various programs, from 3 months to a full year.  Contact me to schedule a complimentary 15-minute introductory session.  Messenger me on FaceBook or contact me through my website www.SurvivingAbuseNetwork.com

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